Saturday 14 May 2016

Salahkan dia.



Assalamualaikum. Rasa macam dah lama sangat jari jemari runcing i ni tak workout dekat atas keyboard lappy. Alhamdulillah, setakat ni i sihat jurr. Beberapa hari ni, aku duk baca satu buku yang aku kira helpful jugak la untuk motivate manusia yang tenggelam timbul then hanyut sekejap macam aku ni. 'Life is an Open Secret by Zabrina A. Bakar'. 

Okay, dah alang alang baca, meh aku share satu part. Sharing is caring right? *wink wink*

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There was once a man who felt that his wife was having a bit of hearing problem. Trying to spare her feelings, he secretly decided to meet their family doctor for advice. The doctor suggested that the husband used the easiest and oldest technique to test his wife's problem. That technique would be able to tell the doctor of how bad is the wife's hearing loss.


'You have to stand about 40 feet away from her and have a normal chit chat with her using your normal voice and tone. If she could not hear you, come closer to 30 feet. If she still couldn't hear you, do it at 20 feet and continue until she could hear you'.

'Sounds easy,' said the man delightfully. So, later that day, when his wife was preparing dinner, he estimated his distance from his wife.

40 feet. Yup, this is about that, he whispered to himself. 'What are we having for dinner, honey?' he asked, using the normal voice tone. She didn't answer.

So, he came closer. 30 feet, he estimated carefully. Again, he asked,'what are we having for dinner today?' still no response.

Wow, this is bad, he said to his himself while moving into 20 feet from the wife. Again there was no response.

He continued and become so close to her that he was just standing beside her when he asked,'honey, what's for dinner?'

His wife turned to him and said,

'For goodness sake, for the seventh time, my dear. I said it is CHICKEN!'

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I laughed when i first read this joke. Suami dia fikir yang ada masalah pendengaran tu si isteri tanpa dia sedar yang pekak sebenar-benarnya adalah dia sendiri.

Nampak tak mesej yang nak disampaikan?

Tuding satu jari dekat orang lain tanpa sedar lagi empat jari menuding (point) dekat diri sendiri.

Contohnya..

Kaki tersepak dinding lepastu carut dekat dinding, tersepak kereta mainan adik marahkan adik, cari kunci kereta tak jumpa mengamuk habis semua benda dicampak, exam tak score salahkan jadual exam, sepak bola tersasar time penalti salahkan player terus maki kaki kelaut, hm banyak lagi la.

'The search for someone to blame is always succesful'

'And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of what your hands have earned. And He pardons much'
(Al-Shura 42:30)



Pehe ke idok? Misfortune means dissapoinment, disaster, trouble, hardship, tragedy, failure, distress and adversity.

Kiranya, kalau tiba-tiba kita dapat musibah ke gempa bumi ke tsunami ke fail exam ke kecewa ke sedih ke, kita tak boleh salahkan keadaan. Yes, keadaan tak salah sebab apa? Dalam ayat tadi Allah cakap segala benda yang berlaku dekat atas muka bumi ni disebabkan tangan kita sendiri. Tengok tangan awak sekarang. Hanya awak je yang tahu apa yang awak dah buat dengan dua tangan sepuluh jari tu.

Bebel panjang panjang pun takde guna kalau engkorang tak dapat mesej yang aku nak sampaikan. 

Katakan negeri A ni kena tsunami, patut ke kita salahkan gunung berapi dalam laut? Tak, manusia yang buat banyak dosa yang patut dipersalahkan sampai Allah turunkan bala. Macam kaum Nabi Luth dulu yang sangap, nafsu tinggi menggunung, taksub dengan kaum sejenis sampai Allah turun bala terbalikkan bumi. 

Kalau awak tak pass exam, patut ke salahkan jadual exam? Tak, sila salahkan diri sendiri sebab tak study awal, tak faham tak tanya, assignment buat last minute sampai tak tidur malam ha lagi satu study last minute sampai otak pun lebam nak sumbat semua benda dalam masa 2,3 hari before exam. 

Tersepak dinding tersepak mainan adik patut ke maki dinding and mainan? Tak, sila salahkan diri sendiri sebab mata simpan dalam poket bukan tengok apabenda dekat lantai.

Badan yang asalnya kurus tiba tiba gemuk gedempol patut ke salahkan makanan? Tak, sila salahkan diri sendiri sebab tak jaga pemakanan main bedal je semua kalau boleh pinggan mangkuk pun nak telan sekali.

Hakikatnya..

Aku pun selalu je salahkan orang lain bila something yang aku buat tu tak jadi ke kena denda ke kena marah ke. Tapi,  lepas baca buku Life is an Open Secret ni, aku try reflect myself. Reflect and fix. I am bitchy young girl. Ha lagi satu pasal hukum karma, alah statement 'what you give you will get back' tu, korang percaya ke? Hukum karma dalam islam dipanggil kifarah. Personally, aku percaya sebab aku selalu dapat pay back untuk certain kebaikan or kejahatan yang aku buat sepanjang 18 tahun hidup ni. Jadi, aku buat conclusion, kalau taknak orang lain buat something bad dekat kita, kita jangan buat something bad dekat orang lain dan sebaliknya. Vice versa.

Setiap kali awak salahkan orang lain, marahkan orang lain, maki hamun orang lain, awak buat isyarat tunjuk tu. At least, sedar 'satu' jari point dekat orang lain lagi 'empat' jari point dekat diri sendiri. Just to remind you their mistake and your mistake(s).

Setakat ni je. Aku harap awak awak semua faham ler. Aku recommend korang baca buku tu sebab gaya penulisan Zabrina sebagai author betul betul zappp sampai dekat hati. Dia banyak kait kan semua benda yang berlaku berdasarkan al-Quran and hadis. Plus, you guys can improve your English as well. Make English as your second or third language. Okayyy. 







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